It always felt like starting all over and was always painful.Once I even continued to date a girl just to avoid “starting over”.When I was relaxed, there was no “doing better” or “doing worse”. For the rest of us, the biggest part of find that special someone is opportunity.To put it another way: imagine there is a room with 100 singles of the opposite sex in it and in this imaginary room there is one person who is a “match” to you.This freedom allowed me to finally be honest with myself about what I was looking for.I stopped defending the poor qualities my dates had and started moving on.We did have a nice time that evening and then proceeded to never speak to each other again.Failure became a part of dating, neither good nor bad; just a part that has to be accepted. Better First Impressions This was a direct result of having less stress.
Taking too long doesn’t just mean you’re looking longer. I believe that dating many people improves your chances in two ways: you have a better chance of meeting someone who you are looking for but you also potentially avoid missing out on someone who may move on if you never get around to meeting in the first place.
When I first started online dating, I had this notion that dating more than one person simultaneously would somehow be insincere. There were times where I would end up talking to a few girls at once but this was always accidental.