How could something so perfect be so horribly f*cked up?
After multiple phone calls to the school counselor and even the dean, I decided to return and try to go back to school.
J and I were totally completely honest about our pasts (at least I thought so). He charmed and won over everyone he met, including me. We moved in together officially after 5 months of dating, were engaged after 6, and married almost exactly one year after our first date.
I knew from day one about his struggle with alcohol and drugs but he had just gotten his 4 year sobriety chip and attended weekly AA meetings with his sponsor. He would leave flowers on my doorstep, pick me up from work (even though I lived only a few blocks away), take me out all the time. Our first year of marriage brought a lot of ups and downs; J lost his job, we lost our dog, we moved cities after I was accepted into medical school, J got a new job (that he loved), we adopted a new dog, and things were starting to really come together by those last couple months.
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He got me appointments to get bloodwork done and also encouraged me to take some time away from school to process.
I had taken screen shots of the emails, and stored them where he couldn’t delete them. He still denied it; someone must have broken into his account, it was SPAM, I heard every excuse in the book. At one point I stole his phone when he wasn’t looking and looked through his applications. At last 10 calls/texts just from December all to local “escorts.” I woke him up again and just said, “it’s over.” I then asked him if there was anything he wanted to say and all he could mutter was, “I have a problem…” I took a shower, drove to school (it was to be my first day back at med school after winter break) and I went to see a school counselor.
After all, this has been my lifelong dream and at 31, I’m not getting any younger. But the truth is he made me the happiest I’ve ever been. Looking back, I feel like there were little signs that should have been red flags: -I swear I saw him looking at personals on Craigslist but I didn’t say anything -He had no boundaries with people.